Feel It When It Comes & Let It Go When We Can

Grief

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According to Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, when we are dying or suffer catastrophic loss, we all move through five distinct stages of grief.

We go into denial, because the loss is so unthinkable, we can’t imagine it’s true.  We become angry with everyone, angry with the survivors, angry with ourselves.

Then we bargain, we beg, we plead, we offer everything we have, we offer up our souls in exchange for just one more day.

When the bargaining has failed and the anger is too hard to maintain, we fall into depression, despair.

Until finally we have to accept that we have done everything we can, we let go. We let go and move into acceptance.

Grief maybe a thing we all have in common. But it looks different on everyone.

It isn’t just death we have to grieve, its life, its loss, and its change. And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad, the thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime. That’s how you stay alive.

When it hurts so much you can’t breathe. That’s how you survive. By remembering that one day, somehow,  impossibly,  it won’t feel this way,  it won’t hurt this much.

Grief comes in its own time for everyone in its own way. So the best we can do, the best anyone can do is trying for honesty.

The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief, is that you can’t control it. The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes and let it go when we can.

The very worst part is that the minute you think you’re past it, it starts all over again and always everytime, it takes your breath away.

There are five stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five; denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance.

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Taken from Grey’s Anatomy “Good Mourning”

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